Refinishing Mangaris Hardwood Deck

My 1200 sq ft Mangaris deck is only two years old. It was originally sealed with Cabots Australian Timber Oil. I never really liked the way it came out the first time when done professionally. This time I decided to do it myself. I have stripped the old sealer off and brightened the wood. I then sanded the wood with 60 gr using an orbital floor sander. Unfinished it looks great. I have started staining using Superdeck Exotic Hardwood Stain in Natural. It goes extremely dark and really looks awful. I would like it to stay as light as possible. I realize it will require more maintenance, but I just hate it dark and splotchy. I have resigned myself to the fact that where I have already stained, I am going to have to restrip and brighten then sand again. What sealer do you suggest keeping in mind I want very little darkening? What grit do you recommend for a final sanding before the sealer is applied? Thank you! Pictures available if needed.