Just installed a new deck,. Now what?????

Sorry for such long winded comments and questions. I appreciate any guidance you can give.

State: Northwestern New Jersey
Sun: Full sun (see below)
Wood: Wolmanized PT 5/4 Pine
Newly installed decking. Just completed today.
Issue: Many (see questions below).

I would like to first state that I am very happy that I stumbled upon your site. The gentleman that helped me install the framing of this deck recommended that I should use Bear solid color stain. He said that it was reasonably priced and has received top ratings on CR. However, after reading the reviews here and even on CR own website I have decided to steer clear of that product. I am now looking for a better product. So I need your advice.

I just finished installing the decking today. It should be noted that on all deck cuts we applied an end grain sealer (anchorseal 2).

What I have noticed while installing the decking is that the majority of the boards are very ‘wet’. Some are discolored and have ink stamps in areas so I was wondering what kind of issue this poses for staining?

Or do I need to clean or brighten the decking first? If so, which products do I use? And if so, is this a good time to begin the process?

How long should I wait to allow the wood to adequately dry as the calendar is now approaching October? Or do I wait till April/May 2013 to apply stain?

Our deck is 600 sq. ft. and projects from an inside corner section of our house facing West. The deck is in full sunlight all day with the exception of the area closest to the corner of the house that remains in full shade. This deck also projects partially around an above ground salt water pool.

So, I would like to have a stain that holds up well and doesn't flake and keeps the wood from splintering from the 'little feet' that will be running around.

I am very new to this so I am wondering what is the best product given the location and issues we have?

And at the same time allowing an easy application process would great for this newbie.

I have read that you like semi-transparent oil based stains and have recommended Armstrong Clark products for ‘new’ decks, correct?

If that is correct then would I be able to switch in a year or so to another product like TWP 1500 or Defy Extreme Stain (top rated stain) without stripping the decking?

Like simply cleaning it and recoating the older stain with the TWP1500 or Defy? I know from reading on this site that these products are not recommended for brand new decking.

Also, I would like to match our new deck stain and our part new cedar board on board fence. This fence is unfinished and has now about 2 months exposed to the elements. We also have a much larger section of older(one section 2 years old and another section 12+ years old) of the same cedar board on board fence that is quite gray and has never been stained.

I would like to try and match up all of the fence sections together as well as the decking, if at all possible.

Can you tell me the process to prepare the older sections of the fence for staining? And any products, cleaners or brighteners I should use?

I appreciate any guidance and direction you can give us. And again sorry for the long winded questions.

Thank you . Newbie Stainman.