my deck is properly prepared for sealing. I would like to use an oil based sealer. Im having trouble with colors that work with my siding. Could I use TWP100 clear this year and then next year use an acrylic product like Defy with out having to sand? The Defy Driftwood color is the only color that works for me. All the oil based grey colors are too bluish. Im waffling
No, you can't do that. Look at Armstrong Clark in Driftwood Gray color. It is oil-based:
https://www.deckstainhelp.com/product-category/armstrong-clark-wood-stains/