deck stain and stripping fail

hi everyone.  new homeowner. hired a fencing company to install a horizontal cedar privacy fence with gate.  maybe 8 ft long, 6 ft high. 

girlfriend and I attempted a stain to match the cedar on the house.  sadly did not see the poor reviews of behr semi transparent stain, and we applied redwood.  it was far too red upon on our initial application but we thought it might dry lighter overnight but that was not the case. 

woke up this am and thought that we could fix it given we only did one coat so purchased behr stain stripper this evening.  it didn’t work with a simple brush and garden hose.  being obsessive, I ran to Home Depot to purchase a pressure washer and went at it later this evening. 

you can probably guess that while it worked pretty well, in my haste I went far too rough on the wood, some splinters, lots of furring.  all i wanted was that damn redwood off and to start fresh.

it got dark and I was not able to finish the job.  so at this point, it’s been about 24 hours from initial stain to the pressure washing.  i’ve got 75% or the stain off, but damaged the fence by applying too much pressure in the process.

 it’s probably time for me to take a deep breath and actually get some advice before proceeding and making things worse. I’ll have an opportunity tomorrow after work to do another round of lpressure washing to get the remainder of the stain off, but what should be my immediate next steps after to avoid further damage to the fence? brightener? Sanding? Do I need to reseal it given the pores are open and exposed and probably subject to water damage? Forgive me but I am brand new to this and I’m just trying to “stop the bleeding” on this first failed project.

total amateur hour and i’m embarrassed, but mostly angry that I may have ruined our new expensive fence...

thanks all for any help!